Wednesday, January 9, 2013

The Woman of Noble Character, Part II




A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 (NIV)

In the last blog we discussed the key to becoming a woman of noble character. Today I want to take a look at who the woman of noble character is.

Let us focus on the phrase “noble character” for a while. What exactly does it mean to have a noble character? How would you define a noble character? Visualize a person that you see as having a noble character. What traits do you see in them? Why would you say that he or she is a noble person?

The Hebrew word used to describe this woman is chayil (pronounce khahˊ-yil). This word means a force, valor, strength, substance, might, power, or valiant. A woman of noble character is in essence a force to be reckoned with. She is strong and confident. She is a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it, but she does so with grace and dignity. She is woman who embodies the fruit of the Spirit.

When I read through the verses describing a wife of noble character, I see 12 different traits that make her noble.

1)       She is a woman of faith. She trusts God. (Proverbs 31:21, 25, 30)
2)       She is a woman of love. (Proverbs 31:10-31)
3)       She is a woman of worth. (Proverbs 31:10)
4)       She is a woman of integrity. (Proverbs 31:11)
5)       She is a woman of compassion. (Proverbs 31:15, 20)
6)       She is a woman of purpose and industry. (Proverbs 31: 13-19, 22, 24, 27)
7)       She is a woman of wisdom. (Proverbs 31:26)
8)       She is a woman of wellness. (Proverbs 31:17 & 25)
9)       She is a woman of resilience. (Proverbs 31:21, 25)
10)   She is a woman of knowledge. (Proverbs 31:26)
11)   She is a woman of self-control and discipline. (Proverbs 31:15-16, 21)
12)   She is a woman of dignity. (Proverbs 31:25)
13)   She is a woman of humility. (Proverbs 31:10-31)

Aren’t all of these traits that we should all be striving to have? Whether we are married or single, being a woman of noble character isn’t as much about what we do as it is about who we are or whose we are. I don’t know about you, but I know that I can’t be all these things on my own. I know who can create these traits in me though and He wants to create them in you also.

As we are developing these traits in ourselves, we need to be acting them out. If you don’t see a trait in yourself that you want to develop, then act as if you are already have that trait. If you want to be a more compassionate person, then act like a compassionate person, i.e. doing random acts of kindness in the community, helping someone who needs help.

We are going to explore these traits in depth in the weeks to come. I am looking forward to it and I hope that you are too.

God bless and I’m praying for you!

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

The Fear of God




After yesterday’s post on the key to becoming a woman of noble character, I realized late last night that I needed to talk a little bit more on fearing God.

I don’t want you to misunderstand or be confused, but  I want to share with you fearing God  as I described yesterday…that awe & reverence & clinging to Him…that comes from having a relationship with God. Having a relationship with God comes from believing that Jesus Christ is the Son of God and that He bled and died on the cross and that He rose again to cover the costs of our sins. In John 14:6, Jesus says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” If we say that there is any other way to a relationship with God, then we call Jesus a liar.

But if you don’t believe in Jesus Christ, if you don’t have a relationship with Him, then you do need to FEAR God and by that I do mean be afraid of Him. Be terrified of Him because there is one day coming when you  will stand before and you will be judged. And on that day it will not matter how good that you think you have been because salvation and eternal life cannot be earned. Not a single person that has lived on this earth before Christ or since Christ has lived a life without sin. Romans 3:23 tells us that ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. All of us have sinned and it doesn't matter what the sin is if we don’t believe in Jesus Christ, if we don’t have a relationship with Him, then we have every reason to be afraid of God.  Romans 6:23 tells us that the wages of sin is death—a final and complete death that will separate us from God and our loved ones eternally—but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Do you get it now?

Eternal life is a gift, a present. There is nothing we can do to earn it. All we can do is accept it. Accept that Jesus Christ is who He said He is. Accept that He died for you and for me so that we would not have to pay that final price.

I’m pleading with you now. If you don’t know Christ, be afraid because of the consequences of choosing unbelief. Like every other choice we make there are consequences. Are you prepared to face the consequences of your unbelief?

If you don’t know Christ, if you don’t have a relationship with Him and want to know more about how to have one, message me or find someone you know that has one and let us show you  the path to Him. He loves you and He wants to have a relationship with you. I love you. I wouldn't have shared this message otherwise.

God Bless and I’m praying for you.

Monday, January 7, 2013

A Woman of Noble Character (Part I)




A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 (NIV)

This verse is the key to why I have come to believe that this passage of Scripture belongs to all women--young or old, married or unmarried. I used the NIV because I like how it states “a wife of noble character.” The ESV says an excellent wife. The KJV says a virtuous wife, and the Message says a good wife. They make it about the quality of the wife when Proverbs 31 is truly about the character of the woman. Proverbs 31 isn’t about what she does, but it is about who she is or even more importantly whose she is.

What type of character do you have? Do you have a noble character? Are you honest and trustworthy? Or are you a thief and a liar?


The key to becoming a woman of noble character lies in verse 30:

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Did you catch that? A woman who fears the Lord is a woman of noble character. Do you fear the Lord? What does the Bible mean when it tells us to fear the Lord?

A woman who fears the Lord is a woman who focuses on her relationship with God. She is striving to live her life for the Lord. She seeks to do His will. She wants to live a life that brings honor and glory to Jesus Christ. She seeks His heart. She wants to know Him.

Fearing the Lord is not being afraid that He is going to punish you for doing the wrong thing or making a mistake. Fearing the Lord is not thinking of Him as some great and distant god who is waiting to dispense judgment or punishments. Fearing the Lord is not hating people or calling down His wrath. Fearing God is not being afraid of Him.

Fearing God is keeping God as our focus. Fearing God is keeping in a place of awe and reverence. It is realizing that His ways are not our ways. Fearing God is taking the time to build a relationship with Him. It is walking in a manner that He deems worthy and following the commandments that He has given to us because we love Him and want to please Him, not because we are afraid of punishment. Fearing God is recognizing His majesty and His holiness. It is coming to Him on bended knee and asking for forgiveness. Fearing God is recognizing that there is nothing that we might do to earn our way to heaven.
Fearing God is recognizing that the Father sent the Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we might live eternally with Him. Fearing God is praising Him for all the gifts that He has given us. Fearing God is serving Him and trusting Him in good times and in bad times. Fearing God is loving Him and loving other people. Fearing God is living a lifestyle of worship.

So do you? Do you fear the Lord? Do you know Him? Do you know His Son? If you don’t I encourage you to learn about Him. Find out what Jesus Christ did for you. Then learn how He can turn you into a woman of noble character.

If you do know Him, is He your focus? Or are you focused on the circumstances that are surrounding you? Make Him your focus. Spend time with the Word every day. Ask Him to send you the strength you need and to work on your heart to create in you a new woman, a woman of noble character. It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, married or unmarried, all you have to do is ask and He will help you. He is waiting. 

Friday, January 4, 2013

My Top 50 Booklist of 2012





I read a lot. What can I say? I love books so when I thinking about ideas for the blog I couldn't ignore that in the past year I have probably read around 200 books or more. Some of them were books that I have read again and again. Now this list isn’t a countdown list. These books are in no particular order. They are just some of my favorites.

1)   Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
2)      The Next Always by Nora Roberts
3)      The Last Boyfriend by Nora Roberts
4)      A Confident Heart by Renee Swope
5)      You’re Already Amazing by Holly Gerth
6)      Breaking Free by Beth Moore
7)      Case for Christ by Lee Strobel
8)      Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
9)      Reshaping It All by Candace Cameron Bure
10)   The Daring Female’s Guide to Ecstatic Living by Natasha Kogan
11)   So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore
12)   ME: The Me I want to Be by John Ortberg
13)   Organized Simplicity by Tsh Oxenreider
14)   Made to Crave by Lysa Terkeurst
15)   Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen
16)   Argosy Junction by Chautona Havig
17)   Discovering Hope by Chautona Havig
18)   For Keeps by Chautona Havig
19)   Here We Come by Chautona Havig
20)   Ready or Not by Chautona Havig
21)   A Year and a Day by Virginia Henley
22)   The Wolf and the Dove by Kathleen E. Woodiwiss
23)   God Loves Broken People by Sheila Walsh
24)   Crazy Love by Francis Chan
25)   Forgotten God by Francis Chan
26)   Unstoppable by Nick Vujicic
27)   God Will Make a Way by Cloud & Townsend
28)   Unplanned by Abby Johnson
29)   Vision in White by Nora Roberts
30)   Bed of Roses by Nora Roberts
31)   Savor the Moment by Nora Roberts
32)   Happy Ever After by Nora Roberts
33)   The Success Principles  by Jack Canfield
34)   How to Succeed at Being Yourself  by Joyce Meyer
35)   Made From Scratch by Jenna Woginrich
36)   Conscious Discipline by Dr. Becky Bailey
37)   Henry’s Sisters by Cathy Lamb
38)   Julia’s Chocolate  by Cathy Lamb
39)   The First Day of the Rest of  My Life by Cathy Lamb
40)   Such a Pretty Face  by Cathy Lamb
41)   The Last Time I Was Me by Cathy Lamb
42)   The Complete Works of Plato (Ok, I will admit to only having read parts of this. Not the book in its entirety.)
43)   The Perfect Wife by Lynsay Sands
44)   The Hellion and the Highlander by Lynsay Sands
45)   The Devil of the Highlands  by Lynsay Sands
46)   Taming the Highland Bride by Lynsay Sands
47)   10 Smart Things Women Can Do to Build a Better Life by Donna Carter
48)   Under a Vampire Moon by Lynsay Sands
49)   Hawk and the Dove by Virginia Henley
50)   The Marriage Prize by Virginia Henley

Okay, I realize that there are a lot of romances on this list. What can I say? I’m a romantic at heart.
I’m compiling a list of must reads for 2013 if you have any recommendations let me know.


Thursday, January 3, 2013

Weights & Measures



One of the things I have noticed by reading older cookbooks is that they use units of measurements that I have either heard very infrequently or don’t remember ever hearing. Well, I have found one book called The Easiest Way in Housekeeping and Cooking Adapted to Domestic Use or Study in Classes by Helen Campbell. It is a really interesting book in that while it can be used for household use it was primarily written as a textbook for teaching young women how to run a household.

(Now, I know, I know that I just posted a blog on the Proverbs 31 woman and I know (eyes are rolling here) that I have stated that it isn’t so much what she does as it is her character. But you will have to forgive me here because I found this information as something worth sharing.)

I am not a person who typically weighs or measures things when cooking. If I am baking something I will, but even then I won’t always measure. I have some things that I have baked for so long that I know the feel of the dough well enough to know when I have it right. But I found this information and found some terms that I don’t remember hearing before like gill? What is a gill? Have you ever heard the word used as a measurement? I hadn’t until recently and then I had to google the word in order to find out what it was, but that was before I found this book.

WEIGHTS AND MEASURES

“As many families have no scales for weighing, a table of measures is given which can be used instead. Weighing is always best, but not always convenient. The cup used is the ordinary coffee or kitchen cup, holding half a pint. A set of tin measures, from a gill up to a quart, is very useful in all cooking operations.”—Helen Campbell

1 pound equivalents
1 quart of sifted flour
1 pint of granulated sugar
2 cups of butter packed
10 eggs
5 cups of sifted flour
454 grams (approximately)
Half a gill
A wine-glassful
4 even tablespoons
Gill
8 even tablespoons
1 cup
8 ounces (liquid)
Tablespoon
3 even teaspoonfuls
1 ounce (liquid)
Teaspoon
4 even saltspoonfuls
½ cup
4 tablespoonfuls
4 ounces
1 pint
2 cups
1 quart
2 pints
1 gallon
4 quarts (liquid)
1 peck
8 quarts (dry)
Bushel
4 pecks (dry)
1 ounce
28 grams (approximately)
1 kilo
2 1/10 pounds
1 liter
1 quart (approximately)
1 cup
8 tablespoons
8 ounces (liquid)

I’m going to be honest and admit that I’m still at a loss as to what a gill is because I have also been told that it is a quarter of a pint which would make it equivalent to half a cup measurements instead of 1 cup measurements. So if you look it up, let me know what you find out.


Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Proverbs 31 & the Single Woman



An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
All the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax,
And works with willing hands.
She is like the ships of the merchant;
She brings her food from afar.
She rises while it is yet night
And provides food for her household
And portions for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
With the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She dresses herself with strength
And makes her arms strong.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff,
And her hands hold the spindle.
She opens her hand to the poor
And reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household
For all her household are clothed in scarlet.
She makes bed coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates
When he sits among the elders of the land
She makes linen garments and sells them;
She delivers sashes to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household
And does not eat the bread of idleness
Her children rise up and call her blessed,
Her husband also and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently;
But you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her the fruit of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.
(Proverbs 31:10-31 ESV)

Reading Proverbs 31 can be disheartening for many women because it sets up the “ideal” wife.” She is kind and generous. She loves her husband and looks to his good. She is a wonderful mother and teaches her children to love the Lord. She treats her servants with kindness. She looks to the interests of her family and works for their good. She invests in real estate. She is a merchant. Blah, blah, blah…The list can go on and on.

But as a single woman, I have found it disheartening, not only because of everything above, but because I am not a wife or a mother so for the longest time, I have avoided reading and studying the passage because I had a hard time seeing how it applied to me as a single woman. I mean, I have no husband, and I have no children so then how does it apply to me? Right!

Wrong! The Lord has been teaching me lately that Proverbs 31 applies to me even though I am single. It applies to all women, young or old, married or unmarried. I may not have an earthly husband, but He is my heavenly husband (Isaiah 54:5-6). I may not have children who have been born of my flesh, but I have children who have been born of my heart (Isaiah 54:1-3). It applies to me because I am learning that it is not what she does that makes her an excellent wife, but it is her character that makes her an excellent wife. And our character is something we should be working on all the time.

So all of you ladies out there, single or married, won’t you join me on a journey to discover how we can be Proverbs 31 women? 

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Happy New Year!


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I hope that everyone had a wonderful Christmas and holiday season. I have been so blessed this past year despite the many losses that I and my family have endured. I am looking forward to the new year, and this year I am planning on it being a life changing one.

Most of the people I know set resolutions this time of year and I would also, but about 5 or 6 years ago I decided that I wasn’t going to make a new year’s resolution anymore because I was terrible about keeping them.

 One of the reasons that most people (including me) don’t keep our new year’s resolutions is because we don’t break them down into small manageable steps. I always make vague goals like “This year I’m going to lose weight” or “This year I am going to get organized.” But I have learned that in order to meet my goals I need to take these vague goals and make them more specifc. I need to break them down into specific, measurable goals and give myself a deadline.

Then I need to find an accountability partner. An accountability partner is someone who mentors you and helps to keep you on track with your goals. It can be a friend, family member, a life coach, or other professional such as a nutritionist or personal trainer. 

My prayer for you in the coming year is that you are able to meet all of your goals and live a life that is glorifying to God.